Monthly Archives: March 2014

When hope is dangerous

I love to read stories of hope.  I love to read or hear about the positive and amazing things that keep hope alive.  Sometimes, hope is dangerous. I’ve been reading over things written from several years ago.  Some were written … Continue reading

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duct tape

I can’t make this stuff up.  Just a few hours before I read this post   http://passiveaggressiveabuse.wordpress.com/2014/03/23/duct-tape/ , I was having an argument with my husband over a car window repair that he’d used DUCT TAPE on.  The electric window wasn’t … Continue reading

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Second guessing

I hate that I’ve become a person who has so much doubt.  I can feel happy, and in the same moment, wonder what will go wrong and when.  Inability to relax in the moment, doubting that it’s okay to relax … Continue reading

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Terms of endearment

When my husband and I were introduced, it was at the home of an aunt and uncle of mine.  Some of my relatives used a variation of my name from childhood, the way people who are intimate with you for … Continue reading

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My two husbands: part two

It’s sobering and humbling (even embarrassing) to realize how long I’ve been been processing and wrestling with the question: Who is he? Several years ago when I was first gaining awareness that abuse was a reality, I attempted to lay … Continue reading

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My two husbands

James 1:8  “…a two-souled man is unstable in all his ways.”  Jamieson-Fausset-Brown Commentary  ‘double-minded—literally, “double-souled,” the one soul directed towards God, the other to something else.’ I’ve spent several years as part of an online abuse support community.  A common … Continue reading

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Stockholm Syndrome aka trauma bonding

What contributes to the intense confusion, feelings of despair, and the hope that just won’t stop flickering? The article (linked at bottom) was the first thing I ever read about trauma bonding.  I still find it to be a favorite … Continue reading

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