Monthly Archives: May 2014

I’m not upset that you’re hurt

Ad hoc vulnerability.  I bet we’ve all been in that stew pot. Right now, I’m smack fresh in an ad hoc situation.  I went out for a couple long stretches of weeding yesterday.  Because I’d thrown down packets of flower … Continue reading

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Ad hoc vs. planned for the passive aggressive

In my prior post, I was expressing frustration about what seemed like (and surely felt like) some garden sabotage.  Try as I might, I can’t come up with an explanation for his letting all my flowers die last year that … Continue reading

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Gardening the sequel and cosmos

This year, I started more cosmos from seed, but no lavender.  I didn’t have the heart to try both again.  He gave me such a hard time about the tomatoes, that I bought three from the nursery, and didn’t start … Continue reading

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Gardening with a passive aggressive (part one)

I woke up at 4:00 a.m. (a couple hours earlier than normal) and couldn’t go back to sleep.  Spent a solid hour cleaning in the kitchen, and despite just having coffee, I still feel not fully awake.  Last year, I … Continue reading

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One weak man

This is dedicated to a poster here, to Exodus. She wrote, “I have let one weak, small minded, evil man destroy my quality of life and rob me…” In her post, she talked about personal loss, one of which was … Continue reading

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The same man

It’s hard to build and contribute your own part of even one good evening together when you have to combat not only painful memories, but in-the-moment triggers. I almost wanted to scream when I started reading this post from another … Continue reading

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Mothering a man

Sometimes it’s just sad to understand something.  Not just sympathize, but understand.  My heart ached a bit reading a blog today: The Breakfast Monologue   Especially this part…  “Am I just being bitchy? Why do I dislike him so much? Maybe … Continue reading

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