A reader, Exodus, asked a question here, and I’m creating a post for better feedback:
“Yesterday I was reading, once again, the description of PA abuse and how PA people tend to objectify others.
Have any of you ever noticed how your husband addresses you or refers to you in emails to others or in conversations? Not long ago I was reading an email from my husband to one of his friends and he referred to me as ‘ the wife’. He never refers to me by name or ‘ my wife’..just, ‘ the wife’. I thought at first that maybe this was just his usual unsophisticated etiquette but then it dawned on me that my mother always refers to my brother and I by the town we live in , not by our names. She would ask me ‘ have you heard from Richmond, did you call Richmond’. I once read that sociopaths and narcissists often display this same behavior because it helps them to dehumanize others.”
My husband has rarely used my name as long as I’ve known him. He calls me Honey, and only uses the childhood variation of my first name when he’s angry, and then it’s always in a very condescending manner.