“You have to understand that character disordered persons don’t play by the regular rules, so trying to reach consensus with them and exhausting yourself trying to get them to “see” the unhealthiness of their ways is pointless.
I have a rhyme I like to use: “It’s not that they don’t see, it’s that they disagree.”
Character disordered people are not stupid people. They’re contrary people.” Dr. George Simon
And to this I add… no kidding.