Monthly Archives: June 2014

Marriage without sex with a passive aggressive man

The night before our anniversary when we were going to bed, he leaned over to kiss me goodnight.  This is rare.  Notice I didn’t say ‘rare anymore’ because it’s always been rare.  It usually means he’s considering sex, and it … Continue reading

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The time markers

What used to be special days that I’d anticipate, are now days I typically dread, want to just get behind me, and hate the feeling that they marked time.  Yesterday, my youngest child became a teenager.  Her birthday is shared … Continue reading

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Response to the other woman

I want to respond to the poster who commented first here: ((( discarded ))) No judgment from me. Certainly not hatred. If I worked with you, I’d probably enjoy going out to lunch with you. Naturally, if you told me … Continue reading

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When positive reinforcement is toxic

Father’s day was probably harder than I was able to fully acknowledge within myself.  It’s the whole thing really.  How I loved (still do) my Dad so much, but how much hurt there was in so many ways.  One day … Continue reading

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Father’s day is a mixed bag

I miss my Dad.  I really do.  While I miss him, I intermittently process anger that comes in fragmented pieces.  I talk to him, get angry, cry, and try to resolve the piece with mercy and grace. I have some … Continue reading

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He makes me crazy

I know, don’t say it, I know that no one can ‘make’ you anything.  If you’re the kind of person that has never been provoked to anger by a passive aggressive man, you might not want to stay for this … Continue reading

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Fighting for myself

I grew up hearing the simple expression: He can dish it out, but he can’t take it, and many times I’ve looked at my husband and thought of those words.  More accurate in his case would be, He can dish … Continue reading

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