Sometimes he’ll say he’s sorry. Usually not unless the teflon deniability has failed, or I won’t budge on accountability and boundaries. If it’s the former, then he can be like a sorry kid that was rough housing in the living room and broke a good vase, or tracked mud on a newly washed floor. Really sorry (pitiful face). I won’t do it again… (only he does) If he says he’s sorry about the latter (because I wouldn’t budge on an issue), then his ‘sorry’ is kind of smug and resentful. Sarcastic tones of sorry, I made a mistake….(then proceeds to remind me of my mistakes, and act like I’m constantly picking on him)
I recently told him that I don’t want to hear him say he’s sorry anymore. Just stop saying it. I told him that when he keeps doing something, his behavior doesn’t reflect being sorry, so stop saying it and if you’re really sorry, then show me.
“You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.” The Princess Bride