He’s passive aggressive. His typical m/o (method of operation) isn’t normally overt. It’s almost always so covert that you can’t connect it to him with surety.
We’ve had days of extra people. First to arrive was one of my sisters, then our oldest daughter, her two little boys, and our second oldest son came. The kids and grand kids left last Monday afternoon, and my sister left this afternoon.
It’s true that it was physically tiring. We gave our room to our daughter to fit the baby’s bed in with her. The sleeper couch is definitely not comfortable, but I was happy to have them here, and didn’t care. It was odd hours, less sleep, some extra running, extra work with meals and cleaning etc. I’m sure he is tired.
He was on extra good behavior. Oh so good…
We all know how taxing that is to a passive aggressive over time.
He was supposed to ask our second to youngest daughter to do the supper dishes. He said he did. She said he didn’t.
(for the record, I believe her)
She was watching a movie with her siblings, and on my way to bed, I saw the mess in the kitchen. I asked him if he’d asked her. (Even then, I was wondering if he actually had) He said yes, and went to talk to her.
Back story… this daughter is very strong in character, but quiet, extra loving, amazingly good, extremely responsible and helpful, and her word is as good as gold. She’s very loving to her father as well.
I heard her express that she didn’t think he’d asked her earlier, and he was so grouchy, irritable, whiny, and snappy. He insisted that he had. She asked him nicely if she could just go to bed now, get up early, and do them in the morning.
And he just started yelling at her. Telling her to just ‘move’ and ‘never mind that he feels sick’ and ‘just go’ etc. I walked quickly over and told him to stop it, and leave the room. He was jerking dishes around and glaring and muttering, and so I told him to leave the room… now.
Poor angry baby stormed off.
First, that kind of behavior disgusts me. I might write more about it tomorrow.
Second, he was a fool to behave like that to a daughter that has continued to give him the benefit of the doubt, and who has offered him steady love, respect, and affection.