Monthly Archives: October 2014

Hate that question

This virus is kicking my booty, but I’m crawling to recovery.  A couple of healthy young people I know got over the same thing in about a third of the time it’s taking with me.  This reminds me of various … Continue reading

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To Leave or Not to Leave? That is the question

Originally posted on Philippa Sklaar Blog:
 It has to be said that the jury is still out on whether leaving or staying is the answer and it is likely to stay out. Many women regret wasting a lifetime in what…

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The flip sides of being sick

It occurred to me that I’ve had a sort of mini vacation by being sick since last Saturday.  I’ve had fever, sore throat, coughing and that not only has put me out of commission, but people were agreeable about my … Continue reading

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Arachnophobia

Spiders … eww!!!  One of my sons was bitten by a hobo spider.  This at least prompted a cleaning campaign in the man cave shared by brothers, and the fervor was increased when one of them killed a black widow … Continue reading

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Knowing how to live

In a recent email conversation with a friend, she asked me about what I’ve been doing.  The typical simple question that’s phrased in various ways, and yet often so difficult to answer. How are you? What are you up to? … Continue reading

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Trauma bonding stinks

I just reblogged a post about trauma bonding, but wanted to add a separate post with a few thoughts.   Understanding trauma bonding (Stockholm Syndrome) is critical to understanding abuse with an intimate partner. I’ve no doubt that trauma bonding is … Continue reading

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Signs You Might Be a Trauma-Bonded Co-Dependent (and what to do about it)

Originally posted on Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed:
One of the most difficult challenges in working with victims of Narcissistic abuse is helping them see that they are not responsible for their abuser’s actions, behaviors, cruelty, or consequences that…

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