Trauma bonding creates an ongoing mishmash between my mind and my emotions. Trauma bonding is worse than super glue. I know it’s present in my life, but it can feel almost impossible to sort out which is what in my feelings because of its convoluted dynamics.
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One of the most difficult challenges in working with victims of Narcissistic abuse is helping them see that they are not responsible for their abuser’s actions, behaviors, cruelty, or consequences that arise out of said partner’s bad choices. The next most common occurrence is victims not being able to decide if their partner is a Narcissist, or just a jerk.
With rare exception, those who reach out for help in escaping their abusive partner feel responsible for every bad thing that ever transpired in the toxic relationship. They doubt themselves, they continually wonder if there’s something they could have done differently, and they come to me with unbearable feelings of guilt, humiliation, and shame. This is all due to the Narcissist projecting their shame onto the victim, as well as having been the target of abusive, exploitative conditioning.
When something goes wrong in the Narcissist’s life, or he or she…
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