Monthly Archives: November 2014

Unexpected good

My daughter called a day ago to see if it was too short notice to come with our grandsons for Thanksgiving. What?? Of course not! (Behind the scenes, much scurrying, changing of plans, and watch PJ run unplanned errands like … Continue reading

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The gift of gratitude

In this country, most people are preparing for a big feast day tomorrow.  Yes, the irony is that giving thanks is blurring into a national leave family and rush to spend money on the hot deals blasted by savvy advertisers, … Continue reading

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A witness to myself

A reader asked why I speak my truth to my passive aggressive husband.  Why bother? To answer the question regarding why I speak my truth to him, it’s because I reply or respond in truth to his words or behaviors, … Continue reading

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An unnatural thing

One of our readers, DaMama7,  wrote a response to Sleepless that really touched my heart in so many ways. “How do I tolerate his small efforts? How do I let him touch me without cringing inside? How do I open … Continue reading

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Sleepless

I remember as a newlywed that we had a clock that used to flip over numbers as the minutes went by.  I laid awake so many nights watching those numbers flip, full of tears, anger, confusion, and pain. Last night … Continue reading

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If I took those words away

Sayin’ I love you Is not the words I want to hear from you It’s not that I want you Not to say it, but if you only knew How easy it would be to show me how you feel … Continue reading

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Meaningless and meaningful

Listening to what my passive aggressive husband says is a strange business.  When he speaks casual words in the kind of nonchalant tone that other people in my life use for relaxing and every day conversation, my ears pick up, … Continue reading

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Sometimes I’m a stranger to myself

There are times when I hear or see him reading his Bible, that I feel disgusted or really angry.  There are times that I let myself get so hurt and so angry that I lash out or engage in futile … Continue reading

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Pros and cons on the roller coaster

Yesterday was a typical day on the roller coaster I wrote about before.  It started with him being cold and aloof, and letting me know he wasn’t helping with the kitchen mess.  Check on the con negative side.  I did … Continue reading

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He said he was an a-hole

Life with my passive aggressive husband can feel like a roller coaster that’s rolling out of control.  I can be so determined to focus on my own goals and hold to my boundaries, and then find myself flying through some … Continue reading

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