Category Archives: abusive marriage

I only wanted love

When I was young and my dreams were strong, I had the hope that there would be love in my marriage.  I didn’t have ambitions for wealth, new cars, a big house, expensive clothes, or even care much for those … Continue reading

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Compartments for coping

Do you ever separate things into different compartments to help you cope? I was thinking about how this became a kind of coping mechanism in my younger years. I won’t think about ‘that’ right now, I’ll think about ‘that’ later. … Continue reading

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It’s almost here and gone

I’m talking about Christmas being almost here and gone.  It’s stress and relief all at once.  One of my sons is bringing a young woman here to meet all of us, and they’ll be staying a handful of days here.   … Continue reading

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Slow learner

When I was a girl, I was normally the top student in all my classes (at least until I started skipping school constantly towards the end of high school).  Learning anything came so easily, and I was used to skipping … Continue reading

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The holiday slog

Don’t get me wrong, I do love holidays!  At least I used to love them… more than I seem to enjoy them now. I keep thinking about some of the readers/posters, and wondering how you all are faring out there … Continue reading

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When he doesn’t want to do something

If I ask my passive aggressive husband for help or to do something for me, he’ll usually do it, but often at a hidden price or sometimes behavior that is probably meant to teach me not to ask.  I often … Continue reading

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When your adult child hurts

When your adult child hurts, you hurt as a parent.  You can’t soothe a scraped knee or put a cool cloth on a bumped head.  You can’t even always offer any helpful advice or practical help.   Sometimes they would take … Continue reading

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