Category Archives: abusive marriage

I only wanted love

When I was young and my dreams were strong, I had the hope that there would be love in my marriage.  I didn’t have ambitions for wealth, new cars, a big house, expensive clothes, or even care much for those … Continue reading

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Compartments for coping

Do you ever separate things into different compartments to help you cope? I was thinking about how this became a kind of coping mechanism in my younger years. I won’t think about ‘that’ right now, I’ll think about ‘that’ later. … Continue reading

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It’s almost here and gone

I’m talking about Christmas being almost here and gone.  It’s stress and relief all at once.  One of my sons is bringing a young woman here to meet all of us, and they’ll be staying a handful of days here.   … Continue reading

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Slow learner

When I was a girl, I was normally the top student in all my classes (at least until I started skipping school constantly towards the end of high school).  Learning anything came so easily, and I was used to skipping … Continue reading

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The holiday slog

Don’t get me wrong, I do love holidays!  At least I used to love them… more than I seem to enjoy them now. I keep thinking about some of the readers/posters, and wondering how you all are faring out there … Continue reading

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When he doesn’t want to do something

If I ask my passive aggressive husband for help or to do something for me, he’ll usually do it, but often at a hidden price or sometimes behavior that is probably meant to teach me not to ask.  I often … Continue reading

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When your adult child hurts

When your adult child hurts, you hurt as a parent.  You can’t soothe a scraped knee or put a cool cloth on a bumped head.  You can’t even always offer any helpful advice or practical help.   Sometimes they would take … Continue reading

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A long week and a heavy heart

This last week has felt very long.  My daughter’s quick and unexpected visit was extended a few days.   Truthfully, I received this as good and bad news.   She left a day and a half ago, and I’m still struggling to … Continue reading

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Unexpected good

My daughter called a day ago to see if it was too short notice to come with our grandsons for Thanksgiving. What?? Of course not! (Behind the scenes, much scurrying, changing of plans, and watch PJ run unplanned errands like … Continue reading

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The gift of gratitude

In this country, most people are preparing for a big feast day tomorrow.  Yes, the irony is that giving thanks is blurring into a national leave family and rush to spend money on the hot deals blasted by savvy advertisers, … Continue reading

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