Category Archives: passive aggressive

Wordless but clear communications

It’s so strange how a passive aggressive man doesn’t need to say the actual words, but can clearly convey that you’ve offended, displeased, missed the mark, done something wrong, not done enough etc., and yet utterly deny that he feels … Continue reading

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Convoluted

My husband is on a long streak of mostly behaving decently,  which tends to produce a struggle within me that wants to put up an extra wall to guard myself, and simultaneously  to relax and let down my guard. Why?  … Continue reading

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It’s almost here and gone

I’m talking about Christmas being almost here and gone.  It’s stress and relief all at once.  One of my sons is bringing a young woman here to meet all of us, and they’ll be staying a handful of days here.   … Continue reading

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When he doesn’t want to do something

If I ask my passive aggressive husband for help or to do something for me, he’ll usually do it, but often at a hidden price or sometimes behavior that is probably meant to teach me not to ask.  I often … Continue reading

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The loneliness remains

I’m still praying and processing so much from our firstborn’s recent visit.  One of the loneliest things is to feel strong sadness, confusion or grief, because I tend to feel it alone.   I know that even in a healthy relationship, … Continue reading

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A witness to myself

A reader asked why I speak my truth to my passive aggressive husband.  Why bother? To answer the question regarding why I speak my truth to him, it’s because I reply or respond in truth to his words or behaviors, … Continue reading

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An unnatural thing

One of our readers, DaMama7,  wrote a response to Sleepless that really touched my heart in so many ways. “How do I tolerate his small efforts? How do I let him touch me without cringing inside? How do I open … Continue reading

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