Category Archives: trauma bonding

The hand that hurts is the hand that helps

My immune system seems to be more vulnerable than normal.  If I catch something going around, it hits me harder and lasts longer.  This has become the norm for me, and it’s something I’m working to change. Stress is harmful … Continue reading

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Down the rabbit hole

“Little Alice fell d o w n the hOle, bumped her head and bruised her soul”  Lewis Carroll You’ll find today’s post interspersed with some favorite quotes by Lewis Carroll.  I feel a bit like someone who fell down a … Continue reading

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Trauma bonding stinks

I just reblogged a post about trauma bonding, but wanted to add a separate post with a few thoughts.   Understanding trauma bonding (Stockholm Syndrome) is critical to understanding abuse with an intimate partner. I’ve no doubt that trauma bonding is … Continue reading

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Questions that friends of victims ask

There’s a wonderful blog that often addresses important issues for women:  The Life and Times of an Indian Homemaker In this post, she asked some important questions.  Here are two of them: “When do attempts to help and support become … Continue reading

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