Tag Archives: covert abuse

I get cold

Not long ago, my husband said he thought we should take the top lightweight blanket off our bed, and that we didn’t need it.  I told him that I get cold, and that I still need it to please stay … Continue reading

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What holds me to him

What holds me to him?  I can think of so many answers to this question.  The fact that I actually married him, said vows, and never wanted to divorce.  This was because I’d been raised to fear the devastation of … Continue reading

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Response to the other woman

I want to respond to the poster who commented first here: ((( discarded ))) No judgment from me. Certainly not hatred. If I worked with you, I’d probably enjoy going out to lunch with you. Naturally, if you told me … Continue reading

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When positive reinforcement is toxic

Father’s day was probably harder than I was able to fully acknowledge within myself.  It’s the whole thing really.  How I loved (still do) my Dad so much, but how much hurt there was in so many ways.  One day … Continue reading

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Fighting for myself

I grew up hearing the simple expression: He can dish it out, but he can’t take it, and many times I’ve looked at my husband and thought of those words.  More accurate in his case would be, He can dish … Continue reading

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When he’s caught redhanded (part seven)

The article I’m discussing here takes a closer look at what seems like an apology, but is actually a substitution for an apology.  What happens when he can’t deny or explain it away?  It talks about recriminations as one of … Continue reading

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Appealing to good intentions (part five)

This was one of the most helpful parts of the article to me.  Gaining insight into how real his ‘intentions’ are vs. reality. Bolding below is mine. “People who are engaged in defending their internal grandiosity may become adept at … Continue reading

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