Tag Archives: emotional abuse

I get cold

Not long ago, my husband said he thought we should take the top lightweight blanket off our bed, and that we didn’t need it.  I told him that I get cold, and that I still need it to please stay … Continue reading

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What holds me to him

What holds me to him?  I can think of so many answers to this question.  The fact that I actually married him, said vows, and never wanted to divorce.  This was because I’d been raised to fear the devastation of … Continue reading

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Withholding sex as punishment

There’s been some infamously fascinating conversation about sex and the passive aggressive man in the comments on this post. I don’t want to give the impression that we never have sex, or that we’ve never had great sex.  Like everything … Continue reading

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When positive reinforcement is toxic

Father’s day was probably harder than I was able to fully acknowledge within myself.  It’s the whole thing really.  How I loved (still do) my Dad so much, but how much hurt there was in so many ways.  One day … Continue reading

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Appealing to good intentions (part five)

This was one of the most helpful parts of the article to me.  Gaining insight into how real his ‘intentions’ are vs. reality. Bolding below is mine. “People who are engaged in defending their internal grandiosity may become adept at … Continue reading

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If you’re wondering why

If you stumbled onto this blog with no real experience of a passive aggressive person, it might all sound a bit crazy to you. That’s okay.  Those of us who live with it have a hard time understanding or wrapping … Continue reading

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