Monthly Archives: August 2014

Hang onto you

I realize there are women who want management tips and techniques to make their passive aggressive husband change and their relationship work.  I used to be one of those women.  Let me save you the years and heartache that I’ve … Continue reading

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A simple thing

One of the greatest things about starting this blog has been discovering and reading the blogs of other people.  I’ve always felt that each person is a story, and so life is like a giant, unending and fascinating book.  I’m … Continue reading

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Lundy Bancroft’s checklist for change

I read a post by a blogger who was preparing a list for the husband she’d just gone no contact with.  I’ve read this list by Lundy Bancroft before, and it’s invaluable for discerning evidence of real change.  Here’s the … Continue reading

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The freaky Friday creamed salmon story

I hope to dedicate most Fridays to our version of throwback Thursday.  Please share a freaky passive aggressive Friday story here!  We can laugh and cry together! A poster/blogger, paescapee,  left this comment:  “My pah worked late on my birthday- … Continue reading

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He says this time will be different

I guess he’s feeling sure of himself enough to threaten me now.  He must seriously have some aggrieved image of himself.  I guess my not tolerating his abusive behaviors, and his lack of respect and love, is just too much … Continue reading

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When a man tells you

“When a man tells you who he is… believe him.”  Maya Angelou This quote was expressed in a few different ways by the author, so it seems it was an important life lesson.  Last week one of my daughters was … Continue reading

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Denial or cognitive dissonance

I read an interesting post this morning here about denial being comfy. Sometimes it’s denial, and sometimes a kind of cognitive dissonance from receiving mixed messages and a lack of validation or support. A woman attempts to talk to someone in … Continue reading

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