Category Archives: covert abuse

Courage and fear

It seems so strange, but just three times (so far) of being able to connect with a horse, an animal that I’ve always admired and loved, has been awakening both courage and fear inside of me. I’ve found myself thinking … Continue reading

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Reflections on shopping

I’ve been thinking about my shopping comments from this post.  To those who aren’t familiar with my background (or passive aggressive men), it’s another subtle dynamic that plays out. My experience with my husband is that when I’ve gotten to … Continue reading

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Hope is the thing with feathers

I had to play all kinds of mind games with myself, but I made it to the therapy appointment.  When I told my husband that I’d made an appointment, his very first response was to tell me that he might … Continue reading

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CMI (chronic multisymptom illness) and military veterans

Burn pits 360 The article/site linked is older, but still informative. As some of you may remember, my oldest son was deployed to Afghanistan while he was active duty as a Marine.  I have to word this accurately, because once … Continue reading

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Just a busy guy

Writing the previous post, I started thinking about how my husband likes to stay busy.  All the time.  I wrote: In this case, he wanted to take off for hours of running errands and shopping (places that are located an … Continue reading

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Thoughts on being stuck

One of the best bloggers on passive aggressive abuse recently wrote about feeling stuck.  I gave a brief response there that I’m adding to here: I wrestle almost daily with thoughts that sound very much like yours, only I vacillate … Continue reading

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I only wanted love

When I was young and my dreams were strong, I had the hope that there would be love in my marriage.  I didn’t have ambitions for wealth, new cars, a big house, expensive clothes, or even care much for those … Continue reading

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