Category Archives: covert abuse

Courage and fear

Posted on April 15, 2015 by WritesinPJ's

It seems so strange, but just three times (so far) of being able to connect with a horse, an animal that I’ve always admired and loved, has been awakening both courage and fear inside of me. I’ve found myself thinking … Continue reading →

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Reflections on shopping

Posted on April 11, 2015 by WritesinPJ's

I’ve been thinking about my shopping comments from this post.  To those who aren’t familiar with my background (or passive aggressive men), it’s another subtle dynamic that plays out. My experience with my husband is that when I’ve gotten to … Continue reading →

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Hope is the thing with feathers

Posted on March 28, 2015 by WritesinPJ's

I had to play all kinds of mind games with myself, but I made it to the therapy appointment.  When I told my husband that I’d made an appointment, his very first response was to tell me that he might … Continue reading →

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CMI (chronic multisymptom illness) and military veterans

Posted on March 10, 2015 by WritesinPJ's

Burn pits 360 The article/site linked is older, but still informative. As some of you may remember, my oldest son was deployed to Afghanistan while he was active duty as a Marine.  I have to word this accurately, because once … Continue reading →

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Just a busy guy

Posted on March 7, 2015 by WritesinPJ's

Writing the previous post, I started thinking about how my husband likes to stay busy.  All the time.  I wrote: In this case, he wanted to take off for hours of running errands and shopping (places that are located an … Continue reading →

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Thoughts on being stuck

Posted on February 23, 2015 by WritesinPJ's

One of the best bloggers on passive aggressive abuse recently wrote about feeling stuck.  I gave a brief response there that I’m adding to here: I wrestle almost daily with thoughts that sound very much like yours, only I vacillate … Continue reading →

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I only wanted love

Posted on February 2, 2015 by WritesinPJ's

When I was young and my dreams were strong, I had the hope that there would be love in my marriage.  I didn’t have ambitions for wealth, new cars, a big house, expensive clothes, or even care much for those … Continue reading →

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The winter gray days

Posted on January 22, 2015 by WritesinPJ's

It was rather ironic that I posted to another absentee blogger that I hoped she’d post and update soon.  Here I sit (not writing much lately), and I’m finding it so difficult to let my thoughts and feelings make it … Continue reading →

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Wordless but clear communications

Posted on January 10, 2015 by WritesinPJ's

It’s so strange how a passive aggressive man doesn’t need to say the actual words, but can clearly convey that you’ve offended, displeased, missed the mark, done something wrong, not done enough etc., and yet utterly deny that he feels … Continue reading →

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Convoluted

Posted on January 4, 2015 by WritesinPJ's

My husband is on a long streak of mostly behaving decently,  which tends to produce a struggle within me that wants to put up an extra wall to guard myself, and simultaneously  to relax and let down my guard. Why?  … Continue reading →

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