Category Archives: emotional abuse

Never sure

Posted on April 21, 2015 by WritesinPJ's

Part of the impact of living with a passive aggressive man, someone who gaslights, is never being sure of myself, not even of my own thoughts or feelings. I’ve spent (too many) hours of my life trying to understand who … Continue reading →

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Hope is the thing with feathers

Posted on March 28, 2015 by WritesinPJ's

I had to play all kinds of mind games with myself, but I made it to the therapy appointment.  When I told my husband that I’d made an appointment, his very first response was to tell me that he might … Continue reading →

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Once more to the fray?

Posted on March 25, 2015 by WritesinPJ's

The dictionary says that a frayed rope has been rubbed so much that its fibers are wearing away.  I feel a bit like that, but I’m going to try one more time to see a good counselor (at least I … Continue reading →

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Thoughts on being stuck

Posted on February 23, 2015 by WritesinPJ's

One of the best bloggers on passive aggressive abuse recently wrote about feeling stuck.  I gave a brief response there that I’m adding to here: I wrestle almost daily with thoughts that sound very much like yours, only I vacillate … Continue reading →

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I only wanted love

Posted on February 2, 2015 by WritesinPJ's

When I was young and my dreams were strong, I had the hope that there would be love in my marriage.  I didn’t have ambitions for wealth, new cars, a big house, expensive clothes, or even care much for those … Continue reading →

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The winter gray days

Posted on January 22, 2015 by WritesinPJ's

It was rather ironic that I posted to another absentee blogger that I hoped she’d post and update soon.  Here I sit (not writing much lately), and I’m finding it so difficult to let my thoughts and feelings make it … Continue reading →

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Wordless but clear communications

Posted on January 10, 2015 by WritesinPJ's

It’s so strange how a passive aggressive man doesn’t need to say the actual words, but can clearly convey that you’ve offended, displeased, missed the mark, done something wrong, not done enough etc., and yet utterly deny that he feels … Continue reading →

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Convoluted

Posted on January 4, 2015 by WritesinPJ's

My husband is on a long streak of mostly behaving decently,  which tends to produce a struggle within me that wants to put up an extra wall to guard myself, and simultaneously  to relax and let down my guard. Why?  … Continue reading →

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Compartments for coping

Posted on January 2, 2015 by WritesinPJ's

Do you ever separate things into different compartments to help you cope? I was thinking about how this became a kind of coping mechanism in my younger years. I won’t think about ‘that’ right now, I’ll think about ‘that’ later. … Continue reading →

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It’s almost here and gone

Posted on December 21, 2014 by WritesinPJ's

I’m talking about Christmas being almost here and gone.  It’s stress and relief all at once.  One of my sons is bringing a young woman here to meet all of us, and they’ll be staying a handful of days here.   … Continue reading →

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